{"id":2421,"date":"2013-02-18T10:25:55","date_gmt":"2013-02-18T15:25:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/?p=2421"},"modified":"2013-10-18T18:18:29","modified_gmt":"2013-10-18T23:18:29","slug":"stuck-in-my-craw","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/stuck-in-my-craw\/","title":{"rendered":"Stuck in my Craw"},"content":{"rendered":"

For a few weeks I’ve been bugged about an advice columnist’s response to a plea<\/a> and while whining to my husband he looked at me and said over the top of his glasses, “This, *ahem<\/em>* sounds like a blog post.”<\/p>\n

So I bring my issue to you to ask for advice.<\/p>\n

I trust you more.<\/p>\n

The basic question is this: if you have dietary restrictions\u2014especially ones that are medical<\/em>\u2014how does one gently and helpfully get that information across when RSVPing to a wedding or any other event?<\/em><\/p>\n

I was particularly moved by this from the original questioner:<\/p>\n

Knowing that the couples are already under a lot of stress, I would like to avoid inconveniencing them with my dietary restrictions <\/em>[GF\/Vegetarian]. I would prefer to eat in my hotel room beforehand, but I would hate for them to pay for a plated meal that I cannot have.<\/em>
\n I will be traveling from out of town to attend these weddings, so skipping the reception is not an option. How do I share in the nuptial celebrations without troubling anyone?<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This is how I find myself often feeling\u2014how do I make this not a problem for anyone else<\/em>. This often involves me bringing my own food, which can also be a problem because some people can get offended from that. But when soy sauce can put me down for three days… it seems the prudent way to go.*<\/p>\n

But not an option at a wedding.<\/p>\n

The Advice Columnist’s answer was wrong, I feel, on almost every level. She went to a vegetarian expert rather than a gluten-free\/vegetarian (if you think I’m being over-the-top let me point out that there is only one hard-to-find fake meat out there that wouldn’t make a GF person very ill indeed. All the rest have wheat) and she didn’t answer the basic question:
\nHow do I deal with this\u2014not being able to eat ANYthing with wheat in it (i.e., fried in the same oil as battered food, made with a roux, breaded with breadcrumbs)\u2014without troubling the hosts more than necessary.<\/em><\/p>\n

I’m planning an event for this fall and I know that I would prefer to know this kind of thing in advance rather than see someone having to bring their own snack food with them, but if no one puts a<\/p>\n

____ dietary restrictions<\/p>\n

line on their RSVP card, then what is one to do?<\/p>\n

Thoughts?<\/p>\n

Advice?<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

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*Gluten hides in everything and I no more expect non-GF folks to know the dangers of or intricacies involved in GF cooking than I would expect my nine year old to know how to drive a car (i.e., he knows there are pedals and a key and steering wheel, but he wouldn’t know how to make the thing go, safely).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For a few weeks I’ve been bugged about an advice columnist’s response to a plea and while whining to my husband he looked at me and said over the top of his glasses, “This, *ahem* sounds like a blog post.” So I bring my issue to you to ask for advice. I trust you more. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2424,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,5,117,16],"tags":[83,370,54],"class_list":["post-2421","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-family","category-general-ranting","category-gluten-free-cooking-family","category-unavoidable-politics","tag-advice","tag-event","tag-gluten"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2421","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2421"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2421\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2860,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2421\/revisions\/2860"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2424"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2421"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2421"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/crafting-a-life.com\/mamaoknits\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2421"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}